Comments on: Appreciation: Who do I appreciate? .#17 http://www.authenticchangecoach.com/17-who-do-i-appreciate/ Reinvent your career and your life to create authentic change! Sun, 28 Feb 2010 21:35:05 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Iyabo Asani http://www.authenticchangecoach.com/17-who-do-i-appreciate/comment-page-1/#comment-690 Iyabo Asani Fri, 04 Sep 2009 02:44:59 +0000 http://authenticchange.wordpress.com/?p=125#comment-690 I love that. I have never heard of that and I think it is an amazing process. I also have left a lot of toxic relationships and I just cannot tolerate all that complaining any more. Of course we all complain from time to time. If you find me complaining, please get on me! Set me straight, Lavern. Thanks for commenting in my world Hugs to you, Iyabo I love that. I have never heard of that and I think it is an amazing process. I also have left a lot of toxic relationships and I just cannot tolerate all that complaining any more. Of course we all complain from time to time.

If you find me complaining, please get on me! Set me straight, Lavern.

Thanks for commenting in my world

Hugs to you,

Iyabo

]]> By: Rachel Lavern http://www.authenticchangecoach.com/17-who-do-i-appreciate/comment-page-1/#comment-689 Rachel Lavern Fri, 04 Sep 2009 02:39:13 +0000 http://authenticchange.wordpress.com/?p=125#comment-689 I happened to pause just last year and realized that I, too, have never been a male basher. Besides having four brothers, I have three doting uncles, mostly male cousins and my dearest friends are male. I adore and appreciate all of them for their love, support, faithfulness and the lessons they all taught me. I am grateful that most of my toxic relationships have now fallen away. I adopted an effective technique from Rev. Michael Beckwith's "No Worry Diet"--Cheery-Ohs. He suggests that when someone attempts to engage you in a negative conversation, listen courteously, interjecting a few 'ohs' throughout the conversation and then interrupt with 'gotta go' to zero out negative or gossip-bearing people. Example: Your best friend telephones to tell you how incompetent all Customer Service Reps are. She makes Negative Statement No. 1 about them. You respond with "oh". She makes Negative Statement No. 2 about them. You again respond with "oh". She makes Negative Statement No. 3 about them. You finally respond with "oh...gotta go". This way we are not giving energy to the criticisms. I happened to pause just last year and realized that I, too, have never been a male basher. Besides having four brothers, I have three doting uncles, mostly male cousins and my dearest friends are male. I adore and appreciate all of them for their love, support, faithfulness and the lessons they all taught me.

I am grateful that most of my toxic relationships have now fallen away. I adopted an effective technique from Rev. Michael Beckwith’s “No Worry Diet”–Cheery-Ohs. He suggests that when someone attempts to engage you in a negative conversation, listen courteously, interjecting a few ‘ohs’ throughout the conversation and then interrupt with ‘gotta go’ to zero out negative or gossip-bearing people. Example: Your best friend telephones to tell you how incompetent all Customer Service Reps are. She makes Negative Statement No. 1 about them. You respond with “oh”. She makes Negative Statement No. 2 about them. You again respond with “oh”. She makes Negative Statement No. 3 about them. You finally respond with “oh…gotta go”. This way we are not giving energy to the criticisms.

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