Feeling good: How do I feel good about this situation? .#18

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I have a womens church conference coming up this weekend and I am really not very interested in attending but I feel pressure by my friends at church that I should attend all three days of this conference. I am just not in the state of mind to be in a three day conference that I am not sold out on. It does not feel like good use of my time and I am feeling pressure by my friends and co-church ladies to attend.

So to feel good about this, I think of last year’s conference where I had a good time. I ask myself about the pressure I am feeling. No one has really put pressure on me about it. I am just feeling the pressure that I am expected to attend and I am avoiding talking to my church lady friends. Hmmm….. So I am the source of the pressure in my mind. Not the church ladies. OK. That was easy. Turn off the pressure, Iyabo.

Now, what do these negative feelings tell me? I am spending my time investing in activities I think others expect me to participate in. OK. So I get in touch with what I want to do for me only and it is this: I want to go to one session to check it out because I really had a good time there last year. OK. That is it. I will go to the Friday session. How about I arrive late so I don’t get sucked in? Cool.

Boy, now I feel better. It is on my own terms.

Affirmation: I do what feels good to me.